So stop BLAMING others for your lack of it!
If you have become so inept at making decisions, blinded by your own power of choice, and oblivious to your universal free will.. or in other words, are miserable more often than not.. then mayby (even hopefully) the following will be of some use to you.
The definition of INSANITY reads: “Doing the SAME THING over and over and over, EXPECTING… DIFFERENT results“?!.
“Why does this keep happening to me?!” she cries..! MAYBE its because you keep doing the same things?! Maybe its because your thought patterns, words, and actions remain the same, unchanged when faced with that certain scenario that seems to continually play out in your life? If you dont change the way you think, speak and act about a given situation, you can bet your sweet happiness away that it WONT change. And of course, you wont see that..! How could you..!? After all, your too bust blaming someone, something else for it..!
“For every finger you point, there are 3 pointing back at you.” by Somethingtothinkabout
Ok, rant over.
How can we get passed it..?
Here are a few things to remember. It is based on the concept of NLP which translates into Neuro Linguistic Programming and they serve as little pieces of candy for the brain with no fear of gaining those extra pounds around the waist..! 🙂
THE MAP IS NOT THE TERRITORY!
– The way we map out the world, is NOT the world. We respond to OUR maps, rather than directly to the world. Our maps, especially feelings and interpretations, can be UPDATED far more easily than the world can be changed.
EXPERIENCE HAS A STRUCTURE!
– Our thoughts and memories have a pattern to them. When we CHANGE that pattern or structure, our experience will automatically change with it. We can NEUTRALISE painful memories and ENRICH memories that will serve us.
IF ONE PERSON CAN, THEN WE ALL CAN
– Too many people think certain achievements are beyond them without ever properly trying… pretend EVERYTHING is possible! Leave yourself OPEN to success..! Its always trying to make itself available to us you know..
THE MIND AND BODY ARE PART OF THE SAME SYSTEM
– Our thoughts INSTANTLY affect our muscle tension, breathing, feelings, and more, and these in turn affect our thoughts. They are interconnected. When we learn to change either one, we have learned to change the other.
PEOPLE ALREADY HAVE ALL THE RESOURCES THEY NEED
– Mental images.. inner voices.. sensations.. and feelings are the basic building blocks of all out mental and physical resources. Use them to build up any thought, feeling, or skill! Its a gift we rarely use! Use it, and place them within your lives.
YOU CANNOT NOT COMMUNICATE!
– We are ALWAYS communicating, at least nonverbally, and words are often the LEAST important. A sigh.. a smile.. and a look are all communications. Even a THOUGHT is a communication with OURSELVES, and they reveal to others through our eyes, voice tones, postures, and body movements. (What are you saying without words right now..?)
THE MEANING OF YOUR COMMUNICATION IS THE RESPONSE YOU GET!!
– People receive what we say and do through their mental map of the world. When someone hears something different from what we MEANT, its a chance for us to NOTICE that communication means WHAT IS RECEIVED. Noticing HOW our communication is received ALLOWS YOU TO ADJUST IT SO THAT NEXT TIME IT CAN BE CLEARER!
UNDERLYING EVERY BEHAVIOUR IS A POSITIVE INTENTION
– Ever hurtful, harmful and even thoughtless behaviour had a positive purpose in its original situation. YELLING in order to be acknowledged. HITTING to fend off danger. HIDING to feel safe.. Rather than CONDONING or CONDEMNING these actions, we can separate them from the persons positive intent, so that new, UPDATED, and more positive choices can be added that meet the same intent.
and finally the most fundamental part of this blog..:
IF WHAT YOU ARE DOING ISNT WORKING… DO SOMETHING ELSE…! DO ANYTHING ELSE!!! ^^
If you always do what you have always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten. IF you want something new, DO something new, especially when there are so many alternatives.. 🙂
Happiness is and always was.. in YOUR hands. 🙂 x